In marriage, all that matters at the end of each day, is your faith in God and your love for each other. What I strive for is the ability to end each and every day with the knowledge that I treated my husband with kindness and respect, and that he knew, without a doubt, that he was loved...
Today I start a 40 day journey toward a better marriage, I hope that some of you will come along on this journey, there is always something that we can learn from each other.

Tuesday, March 31, 2009

day 31: love and marriage

A man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.

—Genesis 2:24


Is there a “leaving” issue you haven’t been brave enough to conquer yet? Confess it to your spouse today, and resolve to make it right. The oneness of your marriage is dependent upon it. Follow this with a commitment to your spouse and to God to make your marriage the top priority over every other human relationship.


So sorry to have missed a couple of days, I took an unintentional break, nothing negative going on, I really just forgot to post! lol When you think about it though, I think it's kind of like marriage, you get so comfortable in your relationship that it's easy just to let things go here and there instead of keeping up the work it takes to make things good!

So with only a few more days left, I will try my best not to miss another day, you have my word.

Friday, March 27, 2009

day 30 : love brings unity

Father, keep them in Your name, the name which You have given Me, that they may be one even as We are.

—John 17:11


Isolate one area of division in your marriage, and look on today as a fresh opportunity to pray about it. Ask the Lord to reveal anything in your own heart that is threatening oneness with your spouse. Pray that He would do the same for them. And if appropriate, discuss this matter openly, seeking God for unity.

Wednesday, March 25, 2009

day 29 : love's motivation

Render service with a good attitude, as to the Lord and not to men.

—Ephesians 6:7 HCSB


Before you see your spouse again today, pray for them by name and for their needs. Whether it comes easy for you or not, say “I love you,” then express love to them in some tangible way. Go to God in prayer again, thanking Him for giving you the privilege of loving this one special person—unconditionally, the way He loves both of you.

Tuesday, March 24, 2009

day 28 : love makes sacrifices

He laid down His life for us. We should also lay down our lives for our brothers.

—1 John 3:16 HCSB


What is one of the greatest needs in your spouse’s life right now? Is there a need you could lift from their shoulders today by a daring act of sacrifice on your part? Whether the need is big or small, purpose to do what you can to meet the need.

Monday, March 23, 2009

day 27 : love encourages

Guard my soul and deliver me; do not let me be ashamed, for I take refuge in You.

—Psalm 25:20


Eliminate the poison of unrealistic expectations in your home. Think of one area where your spouse has told you you’re expecting too much, and tell them you’re sorry for being so hard on them about it. Promise them you’ll seek to understand, and assure them of your unconditional love.


How many times have we all expected our spouses to be perfect? I know I'm definitely guilty of this on more than one occasion!

Sunday, March 22, 2009

day 26 : love is responsible

When you judge another, you condemn yourself, since you, the judge, do the same things.

—Romans 2:1 HCSB


Take time to pray through your areas of wrongdoing. Ask for God’s forgiveness, then humble yourself enough to admit them to your spouse. Do it sincerely and truthfully. Ask your spouse for forgiveness as well. No matter how they respond, make sure you cover your responsibility in love. Even if they respond with criticism, accept it by receiving it as counsel.

Friday, March 20, 2009

day 25 : love forgives

What I have forgiven, if I have forgiven anything, I did it for your sakes in the presence of Christ.

—2 Corinthians 2:10


Whatever you haven’t forgiven in your mate, forgive it today. Let it go. Just as we ask Jesus to “forgive us our debts” each day, we must ask Him to help us “forgive our debtors” each day as well. Unforgiveness has been keeping you and your spouse in prison too long. Say from your heart, “I choose to forgive.”


Forgiveness, so important - not only in marriage, but in life, period. Even if certain feelings and issues have to be worked out, forgiveness can be given, right here, right now. Just as God forgives us the minute we ask for it.